4myfamily, I had the same feeling exactly 2 months after I married my xh. It's not hard to define when you are discussing PA behavior w/others who have experienced it.
Over time, I felt like I was being "used" as a stepping stone for what he wanted. It was never a "joint effort" to reach our goals. I was the one that strived to reach our goals and he sat back and reaped the benefits. In fact, he had it all and you know what, he never appreciated anything that he received or had in his possession. It was like, once he received whatever the item of interest was, oh, well, what's next.
Yes, the empathy chip was destroyed a very long time ago for these folks.
Before Jack comes along and dings us, you might want to consider starting a Part II thread on this topic...we've gone over 100 posts.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
