the more you "battle" him for his attention or judge his parenting (or lack thereof)
the more estranged you'll feel from him AND the kids...it's a lose lose for now unless you detach,
And really do it. Your h may feel guilt for leaving his w's and kids and this is his only show of being a decent guy. He does not realize that discipline is a form of love. And it takes love to do it, not neglecting or ignoring the problems b/c it's easier than truly dealing, though that would be the more loving thing to do. He doesn't know, and it's probably not your job to teach him, (imo).
Stop attaching ANY of your happiness to his reaction to you, as hard as that may seem.
Same goes for the kids for sure. Be busy when they're around or have a calm down glass of wine (or ADs or whatevs)
but don't let them get to you. Thank God they aren't yours b/c I doubt they're easy on their own mom. (Those are two problems you don't have.)
Let us know how we can help.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
