W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore-P2

[Snowman]

Well, it feels like I'm falling off the grid and help train here. The D papers have still not been finalized even though my L emailed hers and my W's L said he would get them revised. Mean while we just continue on living as if we are already divorce. Things are very amenable and I just keep working on me. All R talk has been stopped since the beginning of January. I have been able to pretty much live my life with out obsessing about the situation or letting it eat me away. Not sure if I have just moved on or finally finding some happiness in my life or what?

A lady from our church came to visit my W and I informed her that she no longer lives here. It was somewhat crappy to say but I did it without being shameful about it as I would in the past. I really have learned that being mad gets me nothing of worth so its not worth being mad. I have read a ton, thought a ton, learned a ton, and hope to progress a ton this year.

I still worry about my 2.5 year old S and the somewhat bouncing back and forth lifestyle. He has done pretty well but I'm not sure what the long term effects will be.

I continue to learn about other peoples R problems unsolicited and I usually put a positive spin on things for them. Tomorrow is Valentines day and I don't have one to speak of. My W would just get mad if I did anything kind of like our anniversary. I'm at peace with that (doesn't mean I give up, just at peace with it).

Not sure what stage I'm at now? Any help or advice from my faithful DBers?