I just wanted to tell everyone that they absolutely must use this link provided by 4myfamily.
It links to many other articles of this PA issue and how deep it runs. There are even some posts from PA people themselves and of course many spouses that are suffering from living with this type of person. Wow, xh seems to have severe PA in waves, but it's all the same. So glad to see the perfect type of man that sweeps you off your feet is just a sharade. You know he started acting different 4 days after we got married.
Thanks for those links. I really really need those reminders and 2x4's. My divorce should be final and Im starting to remember the very good times that I will treasure and starting in with a pity party. Then I come to this board and get reminded of the reality of what my life has been for many years.
I had to get away from it to gain perspective and really start to see some things that I didn't because I put blinders on. There were so many red flags and things that would happen or make my gut hurt that I knew were wrong. It also dawned on my that my world has been rather isolated up until I started to work again. I was a stay at home mom for 10 years. It's amazing how small your world can become and you don't even know it. Losing my own mother, him losing 3 grandparents, in addition to xh almost losing his life, plus him leaving me 2 times all within 3 years put me in a fog mentally. I didn't want to see anymore bad things, I had enough.
Wow. I didn't realize just how much I've been through the last few years. How on earth am I still standing?
