DB is not so much about interpreting our spouses behaviors even tho sometimes it seems that way.

DBing is about looking at those behaviors in ourselves that might have contributed to the breakdown of the relationship and changing those.

You say your H is mean. Why do you want to continue to be with someone who is mean to you. Is it love, is it neediness, is it fear, is it financial?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss