Wow, 111, what a memory. It's so hard to go to those good, cherished memories for me. I just become so sad. So, I try to only think of the present and the future for now. Your trip sounds amazing and I hope you have the chance to do something just as special very soon.
Mimi
being in the present is key to success here, and imo, in life in general.
Looking to the future with optimism and hope is great too. Let go of the past, unless/until the good memories bring you comfort.
Someday they probably will.
Guess I'm fortunate in that the good memories DO bring me comfort. And hope - I think that's a difference between what my wife feels and what I feel. Neither of us want the marriage we had by the late summer and through the fall. I just always believed we had it in us to MAKE the one we DID want. She doesn't believe that, at least right now - and when I try to look at things from her point of view, I can understand why.
But for me the present memories give me comfort, and give me hope that given the chance we can make it work. So, while I don't wear my ring (that, for some reason, DOESN'T give me comfort right now) I've kept the pictures up around the house.
Me: 36 Her: 35 Together 7/09 Married 8/7/10 Separate rooms since at least April 11 "I've decided I want a divorce" 12/5/11 She moves out of state/files 2/7/12 Dissolution final 5/12
