When I read this, I go back to something a good friend told me one day....
You are never too old to learn something, you just get too old to hear it, in the way that makes sense. And sometimes , it just takes hearing it, in a different way.
With detachment, there come a peace around you. When you can finally let go of the rope that you each keep tugging on.
It isn't a physical thing that you are searching for. It is a state of mind.
It is when you can understand the difference between moving on, and moving forward.
It is when you can take steps toward your future, knowing that your spouse has things to work on. And you have Faith that one day, they might just join you for the rest of your journey.
It is when you have Faith in your self, enough to live your life, not missing a day, without having to look toward another person to validate that you are taking the right steps.
It is when your handbook for your life, is written by you. And you CHOOSE whether or not you let someone co-author that, with you.
It is loving another person enough to allow them time to become who they were intended on being. And taking that same time to do your work.
It is accepting that, and it is accepting the fact that any relationship in the future, will be a new one, and that anything is possible. And that it could be possible for you to build that new relationship with your current spouse.
It is not expecting it to be with your current spouse. And that IF that were to happen, you would be open to that, and willing to work toward that WITH her, not FOR her.
It is zero pressure on her, it is zero pressure on you, to make "anything" work. It is allowing things to fall as they may, and you will be just fine with either outcome.
It is that there isn't anything that has to be either Black, or White. That there can be gray. Nothing is absolute in life. There are no guarantees, and expecting them, is a futile waste of time.
It is knowing that there is a greater power watching over us. And that the faith you have in that, is enough to light the path you are walking.
And it is also, being "aware" enough to know the difference.
All of that happens within yourself, not something that you physically do...
