I've done what you've suggested, I assume you'll know I have. I also looked back at your original sitch, I wanted to understand where you were coming from. It's very clear to me that my sitch is significantly different from yours, and since you're relatively new to my thread, I wanted to be sure you understand this as well as you think you do. I have no doubt of your expertise in MLC, but I do doubt your skills in understanding my W. When I read the "MLC Profile" in the resources links and from the book review site, I don't really fit the stereotype emotional pursuer, nor does my W fit the emotional distancer.
FWIW I spent the day reading your threads. I see I am not the first person to mention MLC. As the Captain said the same thing on a previous thread. You have gotten good advice here and your MC seems to be on the ball. I will not counter any of it FWIW, I still agree with my assessment of what is going on, although I agree I do not know you or your wife and can only read what is on the written on the page.
As far as MHO of MC it is that until both parties are ready to go all in, that it is a waste of time and money. That being said I did it for 6-9 months and my wife used it to validate her position.
Menopause is not that much different than a full surgical hysterectomy, the results being somewhat similar. So the advice that the CAPTAIN was giving you I believe has been spot on.
Oh and CAPTAIN, just as an aside reading what you posted as of my birthday last week you and I are the same age. And men go though menopause too!(I know I am not telling you anything new)
Accuray what you posted above a few posts I think is a good idea. DO not punish your wife. I think you are correct about that. MLC like I said before can come in all forms. It does not have to have an affair or monster. But their are templates that seem to follow a script. I think what you may need to understand is that PURSUIT = Enabling. So when you continue to pursue, you are enabling what is happening. I will not judge you for what you think or do, nor tell you what you should do. I am just trying to say that you are not the first person to go down this road and although every sich has its own specifics, some are very similar.
