Wife in "D - Freight Train Mode"

[Grmpy_Mnky]

I needed this calamity in the worst way. If my W had not dropped the bomb, chances are I never would have changed or become proactive in facing down my depression - nice guy syndrome.

I do not see a need to end the M to start fresh with W in a healthy and loving R. To me, the dissoultion of the M is a legality because it has already ended emotionally. Yet, I am very reluctant to get it over with. I am having a hard time understanding why it is so important to her that we D ASAP. Could be a EA/PA, but I still do not see that. If there was, I still would be able to move beyond that in time.

Like I said before, I know I can be happy if we do not rconcile. I just want to make sure that she has the opportunity to see the "real me" again before she makes this change permanent. I like me now and I wish she would slow down and meet "me".