I doubt your w is ready to work or do anything "together' with you at this time.
Don't set yourself up for rejection and then try to say she's a bad mom for doing it. She's not ready.
Just detach a lot more and clarify what you are asking for
and
what you are NOT asking for..politely
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016