Outside the Scope of This Report

[BeingMe]

Egad! I was at your stage of the game so many times, WT. I have finally got to the place where I don't care one way or the other what my H is doing, or with whom. I kicked him out of my bedroom last year because he wasn't being a real H. I stood for so long, that it was easy to detach. He says he tried, yeah ... right! I haven't seen any evidence of it ... must be in his head. I'm past the anger, past the hurt, past the fear of being alone, just done.

I guess OW's H has been deployed so she's whining to your H. It's so funny that they lie to their spouses and to each other. What kind of R is that? If they were to actually live together, it would blow up in no time, because it would be built on a very shaky foundation.

IMO, do nothing, just detach and go about your life, having fun, laughing, GAL. But, don't engage him in conversation, unless he speaks first. Then you end it. And the first hint of any kind of insult, or meanness ... leave the room. And don't be running around for him. Don't be the proverbial doormat. Why should you be the good W, when he is the lousy H? I would go so far as to not do anything for him at all, so he can see what you do for him, all the time. No taping shows, not going out to buy cakes, no anything special. He doesn't deserve it. And, maybe, just to be naughty, lose his cell phone. Hahaha! Then you be the hero in finding it. Play head games with him and OW ... no, I guess that would be mean. You'd have to be really detached to do it.