I feel your frustration, but I'm so impressed with the way you handled the conversation, and the way you handle everything in general.
You gave your W an "easy way out" and she didn't take it! I think your W is really trying to come out of the funk, it's just taking a very long time. You've given her so much support, don't stop now! She needs it!
I think you're on to something about the "disturbance in the force". I was not able to remain calm. I completely blew up on H. I'm not proud of it, but it happened. Well, H still seems to be "here", but now I don't know what to do.
Be strong, Rick! Show people like me how important it is to be patient and calm!