No it wouldn't be for the right reasons... I know. She needs to do this. I need her to do this at this point. If she stopped now it would be out of fear or panic that she can't do it by herself, that she needs me to save her. That's part of why we're here. She's wanted/needed saving and I'm a rescuer.
I thought it was telling this morning when she was recounting a story to me. Last night she picked up a microwave from a friend. She was telling the friend about how hard this week will be, and how she's most fearful of XH's reaction to the child support issue. As she's recounting the story she says, "and I told [her friend] I'm really scared of [XH's] reaction. After making [me] pay for MY kids for the past six years I finally grew up and I am making him pay his fair share." The emphasis is hers and I thought the words were somewhat telling.
As far as the story... I didn't give him his story. I did have the brave knight [S's] name ride in (on his turtle) and save Queen Mommy from the dragon. But, it turns out, that Queen Mommy kind of liked the dragon's lair without the dragon so she decided to stay there with Princess SD and Prince SS. But the brave night still rode his turtle to Queen Mommy and King Daddy. And sometimes King Daddy visited the lair and sometimes Queen Mommy came to the castle. And that while they lived in two places they still were friends and still ruled their lands fairly and wisely. And most of all the people, and the brave knight, were happy. The End.
Married 6 together 8 Me:38 W:31 second marriage for both SS12, SD10, S6 Bomb: 9/8/11 (day before our 5 yr ann) W moved out: 2/18/12 D final: 11/12/12 Share S 50/50. Spend as much time as I can with SS & SD