Talking with my parents- I've come to realize that they have been hurt, personally, by H's actions. It makes me wonder what their reaction would be if he and I ever reconciled. I don't think they care to leave their 'path home' smooth for him.
(((purg))) - I know exactly how you feel. My parents were deeply hurt by my H leaving. He was like a son to them and in all this time, he has never once addressed anything that is going on with them. When he sees them, he acts as if nothing. I know my parents feel he abandoned them too.
But you cannot worry about how they will react if your H comes back. The truth is that everyone has an opinion and some people will make it easy and some might make it harder for him. Those are the consequences of his actions and he will have to deal with them. I know... easier said than done.
Originally Posted By: purgatory
I feel like I'm fighting my life right now. There are so many changes happening and I am angry that I can't focus on any one of them- instead, I have to juggle them all at once... and I'm alone.
Purg - don't get down on yourself now. You are doing so great - and you know your circumstances are tough. (just look at yesterday's posts to see how well you are handling things...) Give yourself a break. Try to take one thing at a time each day. If you look at everything at once, you will get overwhelmed. I do too.
Maybe take a mini break and do something good for yourself. A bath, a 30 min. walk, listen to soothing music, call a friend... Remember how far you have come - and you have done it while you have been alone. So you know you can do this!! (((hugs)))
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
