When my H came home yesterday he was acting like a teenage boy who was asserting his independence. He sent me a text making sure his favorite program would be recorded. "Shameless", if anyone also gets a kick out of that show.
He made several comments about "His" bedroom. I told him flat out I am sleeping in the Master bedroom, he can sleep where he wants. He made some noise that he guessed he would have to move all the clthes around. I said do what you have to do I am sleeping in our bedroom.
I also asked him to try not to say things to me that were mean and hurtful. I tried to give him some examples. Like him telling me that he was thinking at the concert that it would have been more fun if OW was there.
I told him that was really a childish way to talk to me. He burst out with the comment: "We are all adults!" And I said it doesn't matter how old we are, there is some childish behaviour going on.
He then told me I have said hurtful things to him. I said I probably had. He said I get mad and say mean things. He is still mad that I contacted OW's adult son. And I told him I know I shouldn't have done that, I was just so blindsided by his actions. I also shouldn't have contacted her STBX. But you can't unring a bell. Thank goodness I found the DB/DR books. Who knows what else I might have done?!?
Last night I went to bed a little earlier than him. He came in and got in bed without a word. I realize why he wants me to move out. He never told OW when I moved back into the bedroom. New Years Day.
And I have slept there since and plan to for the rest of the time I'm in this house. OW believes we are sleeping apart and evidently as part of his acting like an 8th grader he continues to lie to everyone.
A couple days ago I told him I ought to write it on facebook, and he about came unglued. Anyway, I'm becoming less and less concerned about this whole thing. If he ends up with OW she and he may well deserve each other. Lies, Lies and more lies are all that come out of either one of them.
Last night my H was all confused because I asked him exactly what OW gets out of all the lies she tells. And he had some convoluted explaniation about how it was because she has been hurt so many times she lies to get people to tell her the truth, so she can see that they really are tricking her.
I said that what he said didn't make any sense. He thought about it and told me I was making it all twisted in his head. I realized at that point that I needed to just not talk to him anymore. I wanted to leave, but really had no where to go.
I should have just not been home when he got home. He actually passed my DIL in our neighborhood as he came in and she left with the girls.
I really think this is the time for me to dissapear more. When he took off the other night I was praying for the strength to just drop the rope. It is so darn hard.
He is back to texting OW every 5 minutes and I know her needy ways will bother him after awhile. I just need to figure out how to get out of his way, and stay clear of things that make me want to complain.
For someone who wants to sell bhis house ASAP, he is putting very little effort into it.
Oh well, on with my day. I hope everyone has a nice one!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
