Living in the trenches....Thread #5

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Hi Navy:

sorry to hear about the new development man.

I have been following your sitch from the beginning and was really hoping that things would turn around for you guys. I still feel that it can happen. I personally feel that this is no way to live in a relationship. Both of you are suffering here. When this happens too long, only bad feelings and resentment breeds there.

Right now i am in your situation. But it is a lil different. Wife and I are going to a counselor. Yes my W used to talk the same way your W did. She was way to caught up in the past and hurt that she just could not move forward. But it should say that by going to the counselor she is getting the feedback of a 3rd person which i think it helping her see the light. Personally i too have reached a point where i cannot put up with any more drama. Nowadays i dont push my feelings inside. I let her know (in a calm adult manner).

Navy i'll be honest. I don't think the status quo will work for you. It surely will drive you to depression.

I feel that your wife needs to understand that even if she just 'came back for the kids', she will need to go counseling to have some kind of civil relationship with you.