It is very disturbing for young adults [and I count your son as that] to watch a parent behaving inappropriately, particularly sexually. If you started dating you son might find it disturbing.
Seriously? I hope you didn't mean to imply that dating is somehow behaving inappropriately? And who brought sex into the equation?
IB, if you're not ready, don't do it, it's that simple. I would also caution you against using that as an excuse (which, for the record, before everyone jumps all over me, I do NOT think you are doing YET) to never get back out there. We get comfortable and starting to date again is a massive step outside the box.
I've been online dating for a year now ... on and off. And yes, a lot of the men I've spoken with/met are not what I would consider true contendors. But guess what, neither are the majority I've met in grocery stores, exercise classes, bars, at work, through friends, at concerts .... you get the picture right? Yesterday I had a coffee date with a guy I met online. We've been chatting for over a month and finally set a date to meet. We sat and laughed and talked at that coffee shop for almost 6 hours and it felt like a blink. He is one of the most emotionally healthy, funny, entertaining, intelligent people I've ever met. And at the very least, I have a great new friend. No harm, no foul.
I get that your son is struggling, and I agree that waiting a few months for him to finish high school seems reasonable. But make no mistake, if and when you are ready to date, there is nothing wrong with it. Even if your son doesn't like it or handle it well. Talk to him compassionately, but do not hold yourself back from making new friends and potentially meeting someone interesting because you continue to put other's interests ahead of your own
Peace! PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
