I don't think she wants me to pursue, she wants me to be "ok" which is to say require nothing from her beyond which she chooses to give. I think this is more of a defense for her feelings of inadequacy than anything else.
Absolutely she does not want you to pursue. And yes this is a defense of her feelings. So stop pursuing and be OK. Yes it is a fine line, a tightrope that we walk. Tough stuff, I agree, if it were easy then none of us would be here. Please re-read the first paragraph of my last post and be sure to follow anything else it says to DO. No need to post about it here. Just do it, I will know whether you follow my instructions or not. So I have another question. Why are we here? Can you explain scientifically what is happening to your wife? Maybe by knowing those answers you will understand the process a little bit better.
