mr mr, write the letter. For me writing helps get the crap outside of me and I feel better after having done that. I think cathartic is the word.
Don't send it, never put anything in writing that might turn around and bite you in the butt. Take the high road because it seems that she would use anything to help her position. Be very careful what you choose to say to her and don't let your hurt, fear, anger get the best of you.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss