Question, 4myfamily....what other books have you read on PA? I have "Living with the Passive Aggressive Man". You're insights are so dead on...of course you living with this for as many years as I have.
I am not sure if rules allow links to other sites. Can't see any prohibition in forum rules, so here goes. I find this site to be very insightful.
Also bookwise: Overcoming Passive-Aggression how to stop anger from spoiling your relationships, career and happiness. Tim Murphy and Loriann Hoff Oberlain.
I found: Emotional Unavailabilty by Bryn C Collins to be very helpful.
Both might be useful next time around!! (If there is one, once you have been sucked in by the cool charm of the PA, might be a case of 'once bitten twice shy'?)