before I knew about PA (I thought she just had a 'f@#k you' attitude) I realized no matter what I suggested she would suggest the opposite. So if I wanted to go to a particular type restaurant I would suggest the opposite, always a win-win I actually got to eat where I wanted and she felt she was denying me what I wanted, both of us content!
If I went with her suggestion and didn't complain she would make a point of criticizing something about it and then say 'we should have gone where you wanted to go'.
It is important for the PA to know that he/she is responsible for their own actions and must set their own boundaries. Because they lack empathy it is often necessary to point out the consequences of their actions or in-actions on other peoples feelings. By not clearly stating a position they are passing the buck to you, no matter what you will be held accountable, nothing is ever their fault.
