Forgiveness

[2thepoint]

OK, I lied. I'm still up. I guess the Advil finally kicked in. One more thing, Antlers...

Yes, it makes sense.

I do see that mentioning 'sharing' faults for the divorce will not change what she believes, and how it confirms her negative views of me. Sometimes I need reminding of that. Sometimes I might say things that will be interpreted by her in a way that I had no intention of conveying to her. I honestly have no anger or resentment, and I have no desire to keep score.

I do appreciate your input. It's been sound wisdom. Thank you.

Back in January I posted the following on this very thread:

"Hey Antlers - I don't think it is going to be as easy as a single communication that get you two to discuss this matter in a constructive way. It is probably going to take the form of several positive interactions between you and your W before she will be open to hearing and changing.

A friend who is D had a very strained R with his ex. Then one day he stopped by to pick up his son and when his ex answered the door, he said hello and simply shook her hand. That one simple gesture of respect opened up other doors for him and his ex to have conversations about what they wanted for their son and how they would achieve that together.

Just something to consider."

I just wanted to remind you of this ^^^^^.

Show your Ex-W respect, even though she doesn't deserve it. Lose the memory of her wrong doing for the sake of an improved relationship and for your children. I promise it will make all the difference in the world!