Thanks so much SbH. I'm definately trying everyday to hope that there is something good in the future as a result of all of this.
So this weekend, I drove my two boys 4 hours to see the Harlem Globetrotters. We had a great time. My oldest cried on Friday when I told him the news. My W had to make some deliveries this morning about half way and so I drove them back to her. It was the first time something like has ever occurred shuffling kids like this halfway accross the state, but boy did it feel like what I think my future my hold after the divorce. I didn't like it one bit and cried in the car for about the next half hour.
I have to mention a backslide just before leaving on the trip Sat morning. She asked if she could talk to me for a second and I said yes, of course the warning siren was going off. When i got up the room she told that I need to be more careful about who i talk to. That she know I'm telling people she is a whore and an unfit mother. I think my head spun around 3 times. I've never said anything even remotely close to that ever! It is so extrememly frustrating to not even be able to deny something that is so blatantly not true. I did my best and avoided any yelling or any of my normal fighting tactics (so a bit of a 180 there) in fact when her finger started wagging and her teeth were clinched instead of responding in kind which would be normal for me, i just quietly asked her not to do that to me any more. She was so angry and it is so twisted and untrue. In hindsight, I should have just yes, yes most definately i need to be careful who i talk to and no I've never said anything like that and then just WALKED AWAY. If there are other suggestions I'd love to hear them. But man that was frustrating.
