I sometimes feel like the bad fairy at the Christening. I would hate to say anything that jeopardized your chances of a reconciliation. All I can offer is my perspective.
Standing by someone who is behaving badly is one thing, allowing them to behave disrepectfully towards you is another, and risks, imo, that they currently think and will continue to think this is OK.
Your h may well be going through MLC [sounds like a duck . . ] and he may feel driven to act in certain ways, You may choose to overlook his behaviours and continue to love him.
The bit I do not understand is why anyone would allow themselves to be spoken to in that way without at least telling them how hurtful it is. If they don't know it is hurtful then it certainly needs pointing out to them, and if they do know, they need reminding that even if they prefer another woman, and are acting on that choice, it does not give them a free pass on doing and saying what they like.
Tolerating bad behaviour has nothing to do with love. Forgiving it does. There is a big difference. Just my 2, rather strongly felg, cents
