Hi, I've been thinking and looking at my situation and it's been 6 weeks since I moved out and while I've made a load of progress my W hasn't at all. It feels like we are just as distant if not slightly more. Been looking on the marriage builders forum and I get the feeling I need to be more pro active. be more patient. This 6 weeks is a silly short time and how have you made "loads of progress"???
I'm almost definetly going to move back home very soon as I don't think it has helped in my goal to save the marriage it has allowed some space to sort out my issues and cope with my anger better. The other thing I've been considering is exposing the EA to her family and work mates, she needs to face the consequences of her actions which is one reason I want to move back Home but I'm not sure if exposing is the right thing to do or not? Please let me know your opinions!
it's wrong to expose to 3rd parties what your w MAY have done. It's NOT a spouse's job to
show her the consequences (that is punitive on your part--your anger rules you)
& will backfire big time on YOU. Read what I told badluck about this please.
I don't want to repeat it all. LIFE shows our spouses consequences of their choices, not a loving h.
And it ALWAYS makes the LBSer look vindictive and petty adn usually like he deserved it. Like he pushed his w into the arms of the OM
which is why I say it backfires...
Don't do it. It's your worst traits talking too loudly--see my post on BL's thread please.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
