I DID NOT mention any scorekeeping or remind her of it in either of the communications that I sent to her regarding us and the kids. I realize it wouldn't be helpful to anyone. I can see it...and I'm glad that some folks here point it out to me when something I say can be interpreted that way by her...even when it's not my intention. I feel like I've come quite a ways since Halloween as far as growth/insight. And really, I have 'owned' my screwups from day 1...even if she doesn't see of that way. But I'm glad that some folks here point things out to me that can be interpreted by her in a way that I did not intend. It's a learning experience. It's only about the kids from here on out. To me. Who did what doesn't mean anything anymore. I honestly don't want to make anymore 'cuts'. I can see that 'sharing' faults for the divorce will not change what she believes, and how it confirms her negative views of me. Sometimes I need reminding. Sh!t...I think that my still breathing confirms her negative views of me. I'm only concerned about our kids and their well-being. I haven't said anything bad about her to out kids ever since I said I wouldn't...and I won't. I do see how mentioning that it wasn't all me undermines my changes. Again, sometimes I need reminding. I'll lose the scoreboard...completely. I honestly do not 'feel' a need to do that, nor do I feel any anger or resentment. I did want to extend an olive branch concerning our kids...I feel like I have. I'll continue. I do think the 2 texts that I've sent her about this are good. Thank you.
