you are still keeping score and reminding her of it. That's NOT helpful to anyone, even you.
WISH you could see that.
It shows little growth/insight and
it does NOT sound as if you are "taking responsibility" at all. Not to her. Heck, even I thought you should have said nothing about your r with her...
just about the kids...otherwise it's all about who did what to whom and you did have to get a dig.
You think that "Sharing" the fault for the divorce, changes what SHE believes? It doesn't. IT CONFIRMS HER NEGATIVE VIEWS OF YOU...
just stay in your sandbox and do NOT mention what she did to you. The truth will surface and is reflected in her future actions and behaviors. The kids have eyes and ears. They were there and still are. They are smart enough to know who has grown and changed and who has not. ANd who is still letting their wounds fester. You need say nothing bad (even if true) about their mother. EVER.
That is taking the high road.
And it will be much more appreciated by them than keeping score of sounding petty and saying "yes I did bad things and I 'own' them BUT SHE'S AT FAULT TOO..."
do you see how that undermines the changes you claim?
it's pure scorekeeping. Lose the scorecard.
Otherwise, good job. And good luck
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
