Forgiveness

[antlers]

I think the message was fine. Thank you. And thanks for your help and feedback. I think it was a good response to her.

Here's the thing Antlers, until you drop the sword of anger and resentment, you will not be able to move forward. The D is over!! Swallow your pride, suk it up about who is responsible for what and work with your ex on the mutual goal of raising the children. I'm not angry and resentful 2tp. Honestly. I've truly forgiven my ex for the hurtful things she did. And I've moved forward quite a bit over the last 3 and 1/2 months...since I truly decided to. I know it's over. I truly do. I've swallowed my pride s bunch over the last 3 years. That's OK. My kids and their well being are what's important to me now.

Here's the other thing. Forget about whether or not something sounds accusing to you or not. If it sounds accusing to your ex or to us, then guess what? That's exactly how it will be interpreted. I appreciate that...and that's one reason that feedback is important. To help. Asking questions or wanting clarification doesn't mean I disagree.

So, do your best to ditch all negativity and resentment. Start from scratch....from this day forward. Dump the baggage and you will see a whole new level of cooperation between you and your ex. And that will be good for the kids, right? I've got a good genuine attitude about this. I meant what I said in both of my communications to her. I'd love to see what I'm suggesting, and I'd love for my kids to be helped.