"I'm not trying to get in a dig...I'm owning my actions...but not turning a blind eye to shared responsibility either. It doesnt sound 'accusing' to me. That's the truth. Do you still feel I shoul nix that part? Am I supposed to take ALL responsibility for what happened...like she wants me too?
Here's the thing Antlers, until you drop the sword of anger and resentment, you will not be able to move forward. The D is over!! Swallow your pride, suk it up about who is responsible for what and work with your ex on the mutual goal of raising the children.
Here's the other thing. Forget about whether or not something sounds accusing to you or not. If it sounds accusing to your ex or to us, then guess what? That's exactly how it will be interpreted.
So, do your best to ditch all negativity and resentment. Start from scratch....from this day forward. Dump the baggage and you will see a whole new level of cooperation between you and your ex. And that will be good for the kids, right?
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It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
