Ditch the part about "we both did things that contributed to the ending of our M and family..." Its like you still need to get a dig in there (i.e. ex shares in responsibility). It is not necessary and will only serve to antagonize further.
As a side note. At some point I think your and ex will need to sit down with the kids and show them a united front as far as expectations for them are concerned. Of course you both will need to have developed a game plan or plan of action ahead of time. And I think it will have to be done in person with your ex. Back and forth via email will not work IMO. Get the plan worked out together. Work through and work out the tension before meeting with the kids or they will see right through it and manipulate the sitch.
You and your ex have to demonstrate a firm and united front or it will not work.
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