Antlers: I think you should have responded yesterday. I think you should speak up on the kids behalf without sounding preachy. But answer in a more timely manner - you didn't like it when she didn't get back to you.
Barb....I sent her the following message the very night that our daughter left her house.....
"Ex, I know we have been at each other throughout most of this and I'd really like to find some common ground as it relates to our kids. I love them and I know you do too. Here's what I'm thinking....our kids have paid a high price for watching us fight. Before, during, and after the divorce. I hope we can both put our kids best interests above our own. What are your thoughts?"
I was trying to set a precedent. I was doing something that I thought was right, even though she never communicated with me when my son left. Ever. I received a reply from her the following day and I posted it here. It focused on the past instead of the here and now. I typed up a sample response to it that night and posted it here to get some feedback...because I wanted it to be on the kids behalf and not sound preachy. I didn't get any feedback on it yet. It's important and I want it to be good. I'd still appreciate folks here looking at it and letting me know. Thank you.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
