I think you should have responded yesterday. I think you should speak up on the kids behalf without sounding preachy. But answer in a more timely manner - you didn't like it when she didn't get back to you.
FYI - Fig is also in the Midwest (well - sort of).
The point is - if you and ex cannot figure this out between you - the courts CAN and WILL get involved. That part is simple. And Gineen is right - someone needs to put their foot down with son.
But - once again - none of us is experts. There is no "one size fits all" answer here or a handbook for raising teens. I sure wish there was. Single parenting is difficult at best. Somehow I got through it but many times I wanted the answers - & they weren't there so I used my brain and listened to my heart & worked it out.
Not the help you're looking for but it is hard to find the answers.
