How do you feel? Do you feel like the bad guy? Early on I made some financial decisions re our separation that many people IRL disagreed with. I had to do what I felt was right and I don;t regret that now.

Those formulas are there for a reason and they are probably fair. No one ever thinks about how much it costs to raise children until the money has to come out of their pocket. It's his issue to deal with, let him.

I agree with Rick, your H gets to decide whether he's happy or unhappy, not your problem.


Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss