When I give her more space, she gets upset. I actually went for several weeks of not having sex or being physical beyond hugging -- I actually felt quite good during that period, while my W got increasingly upset about it. In the end she got really upset and said I was depriving her of the opportunity to make me happy.
Of course she gets upset because she then has lost CONTROL of YOU. So her reaction is childish. Again I will refer you to the MLC resources and the pursuit and distance article. You will continue to CYCLE in this manner until something breaks this.
Her reaction also tells me that she is depressed and a control person. You on the other hand are the opposite of her and let her control YOU.
Not really sure you are peicing at this point in time since she is not all in on that.
She will more than likely not recommit to your marriage at this point because she is still in crisis. She does not want to lose CONTROL.
So my question is why? for both you and her? Just think about that no words to her will help.
