Don't know it anyone has read or followed my situation on the newcomers board. But after 4 months of being fairly estranged (she moved out in November) I wrote my w a long, heartfelt letter sharing with her all of the things I discovered about myself and the way I was (and why) in our marriage. Long story short, she was overwhelmed by it (in a good way) and wanted to meet up with a marriage counselor to try to process it all. So we went, and have our third session this coming week. They have been going well and in the last one the MC suggested that we try to do small, simple things together. After that session, me, s and w all went to dinner together for the first time in months. It was great - and we just got caught up on each other's lives. We went to Target a few days later to get some things that she needed for her place and then went to lunch. Again - great time - we had a great talk about her new job and the things that have been going on in our careers.
A few days later she asked me to call her and we had an hour and a half talk about our relationship. It was neither bad nor good - we were respectful, at times emotional and kind to each other in the discussion. She said that she had to go because the conversation was overwhelming her. In a nutshell, she basically doesn't believe 100% in my changes and thinks it may be an act. ANYONE that knows me or has followed my sitch knows that nothing could be farther from the truth.
I have thrown out a few things to her that we could do together (a concert, a comedy show) - including a meal with the three of us this weekend. No real bites on any of it. And the communication seems to be OK one minute - she'll initiate a text - and then the next minute she is a ghost. Doesn't initiate or respond in more than one or two words.
I don't know what to call this phase. But if it is piecing, or the beginning of piecing can someone tell me what to expect? Are there stages to it? I said in one of my threads that I feel like a 17 year old boy trying to get the attention of the girl he has a massive crush on...awkward....not knowing what to sat...not knowing what to do....not wanting to over or under do anything.
If there are any pros on this topic, I am ALL ears.
