Trusting, One of the things I find myself wondering about is whether, after years and kids, etc., one is truly separated. It seems that they continue to watch what we are doing and want to know.
I suspect that the engagement may have been some serious pressure on her part. It's pretty unusual for them to marry the OW but I suppose it can happen. Glad that it doesn't feel too hurtful to you.
But I am happier for you that you can have R w/your former SIL. This will undoubtedly be disturbing to X and OW--not that this is why you'd do it, of course.
I have a strange feeling that your X's MLC story may be reaching its end as reality has caught up.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
Thanks forward for checking in. My ex's MLC is puttering out. He has stopped his excessive spending, traveling and spewing. My ex has a lot of pride. It would take a lot of humility on his part to come back to the marriage. He would have to put his pride second and that would be close to a miracle. I feel so blessed to have reunited with his sister. This will be a lifetime friendship for us. OW is having a fit about this and she is now calling sister in law trying to befriend her.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
This situation has such feelings of helplessness. Really the only thing we can do is keep praying for them.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Trusting, You are absolutely correct...all we can do is pray for them.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Dissappointed in myself. Having difficulty with the whole thing about ex getting engaged.....
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Trusting, I do understand how you feel. He may be engaged now, but who is to say that it will last? Let's pray that the tides of change will hit him and he'll come to realize that marrying the ow will not be the answer to his search for "bliss".
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
do not be disappointed in yourself, this is to your credit. It seems to me these forums are summed up as 'the securely attached writing about the emotionally unavailable'.
He will be emotionally unavailable until he makes the changes. You cannot help being securely attached, but should never change.
My aunt is encouraging me to let my ex know how I feel. I don't think this would be a good idea. I need to detach more and accept whatever happens. It is just one of those times when the emotions get the best of you.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
