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[WenikiTiki]

Hey Jack!

I lost 77 pounds and still eat ice cream. I measure it and treasure it! One cup of light ice cream with a few sprinkles on it makes counting calories all day worth it.

I started eating smaller breakfasts and lunches to make sure I could have my dessert.

While out on my 4 and a quarter mile walk I missed 5 messages. My best friends breast cancer is back. She doesn't know how bad yet, but a masectomy is the sure thing right now. She had Triple Negative, which is a rotten beast.

I just don't know if I can cry any more this year. Probably won't be crying any less.

Anyway I called my H to tell him about our friend. He was sorry to hear it. She and her husband have been our friends for almost 10 years. We were going to sail around the world with them friends.

Things changed, many bad things for them. We changed our life plans to help them through their son being shot and paralized on the mainland. Many other things, then her cancer.

Anyway when I was getting off the phone with my H from telling him this bad news I said "Goodbye, I'll see you later." And he said "Love You, Bye." Which he hasn't said in many months. Don't know if it was by accident, out of shock about our friend, or what. Made me cry some more.

Anyway, my kids and grandkids all just showed up. Guess I should cook then the dinner I promised them!

Aloha,

Wendy

[BeingMe]

So sorry to hear about your friend, Wendy. They have so many new treatments now ... life expectancy is much better even with a second recurrence.

My H used to also say, "love you" when ending a convo on the phone. I stopped, so he did too. It's something that your H said it. A baby step? Or an accident? Only time will tell, 'eh!?

You are so lucky to have your children and grandchildren nearby. I really miss mine who are far away.

Ciao for now.

[beatrice]

Wendy, so sorry about the friend's breast cancer. Well, I got it again, and had the total, and simultaneous reconstruction. It is a lot of surgery with the follow ups. The care was amazing, and I had no pain at all. [Plus eventually a pretty amazing bosom!]

Bluntly, the main thing is whether it has spread either into the lymph nodes, or anywhere else. A scan and tests will show that. If it hasn't spread, then the mastectomy, though radical, stops things in their tracks. I am more than 20 months post the first op . . . at least she isn't also dealing with a MLC spouse!! Man but my xh was mean just before I had the first and major surgery.

I won't say don't worry, but it really can work. And her previous difficulties will give her strength and fortitude.

[job]

Wendy,
I am very sorry to read about your friend. I hope everything works out for her. I will keep her in my prayers.

[WenikiTiki]

It is good to know folks get through these things. My friend is very strong. And she even said that having gone through it before helped her now.

She was already joking about making a computer game where instead of angry birds you sling shot breasts to knock down pigs and walls.

Of course at yoga last night the instructor told us to pull our knees to our chest and my friend went into a laughing fit. My friend said if we had bigger chests it would be easier. Which sent me into a crying fit.

The instructor wasn't amused by us. I had covered my face with my hands to try and get control and the instructor then told me I was doing the pose wrong. Then I was laughing and crying all at the same time.

I turned to my friend and gave her my biggest smile. It is a low light class, so hopefully she couldn't see me cry.

Thank You all for being there!

Aloha,

Wendy

[BFloat]

wendy,

your post about the farts made me lol!! i was reading from my phone while D2 was playing and she turned and said "i want to see too!".

the news about your gf made me teary. glad she has a sense of humour about it. laughing is sometimes the best remedy.

i just want to say weni.. you seem like such an amazing woman. your H would be a fool to leave!! if you were a man.. i would totally date you!! hahaha.. you know what i mean.

[WenikiTiki]

Thank You Barely!

Of course my H decided to tell me this morning that he wants to spend time with OW because he is so afraid she is going to kill herself. And that they have signed up to do the Great Aloha Run together, something they planned to do together last year. VBut then he cancelled. That is the middle of me figuring everything out. I went alone and she went alone last year.

He just want to make sure she gets through this next 19 days untill she leaves the island. And of course since she is so weak from her weight loss he needs to be there to help her make it.

I am so mad I could spit nails. Last night we went to a concet at Hickam. And this morning he made sure to tell me how he was just thinking the whole time how it would have been more fun with OW there.

I am not doing very well with sitting quietly right now. I kind of feel like throwing things.



And he reminded me how

[kml]

Last night we went to a concet at Hickam. And this morning he made sure to tell me how he was just thinking the whole time how it would have been more fun with OW there.

Oh for cripes sake! I would have shown him the door then and there.

While he's "got" you, he wants her. As soon as you kick him out and he's "got" her, he's gonna want you, I'm sure.

But you gotta be asking yourself at this point, how much of this self-absorbed nonsense are you willing to take from him? I know they're like mentally ill people when they're going through this, because who in their right mind would say such a thing to you???

[seeking answers]

KML, I agree. For those that don't believe in MLC, just come read this board. You can't make this stuff up.

[TRUSTING]

Absolutely, MLC= Narcissism, bi-polar, borderline, passive aggressive, and a huge dose of immaturity.