The defences put in place to cope must be huge, and the fear of really facing her underlying feelings probably terrifying. In her own words she thinks of this everyday ,and this is the reason she does not deserve anything good in life. Hence the constant PA obstructing and sabotaging and self destructive behaviour.
However unless she seeks to resolve this herself and face her 'final fears' there is nothing I can do, and I will not let her destroy me either.
We didn't break them it is not our job to fix them.
Yup yup yup. This thread has been a godsend for me. Unbelievable.
me 45 H 46 T 5 M 2.5 BD Sept 6 2011 OW Sept 8 2011 Threw him out Sept 8 2011
