Trusting, One of the things I find myself wondering about is whether, after years and kids, etc., one is truly separated. It seems that they continue to watch what we are doing and want to know.

I suspect that the engagement may have been some serious pressure on her part. It's pretty unusual for them to marry the OW but I suppose it can happen. Glad that it doesn't feel too hurtful to you.

But I am happier for you that you can have R w/your former SIL. This will undoubtedly be disturbing to X and OW--not that this is why you'd do it, of course.

I have a strange feeling that your X's MLC story may be reaching its end as reality has caught up.


M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
I remarried New Guy
Cooperative r w/X regarding D