Forgiveness

[antlers]

This is what I sent her the night that our daughter left her house.....

"Ex, I know we have been at each other throughout most of this and I'd really like to find some common ground as it relates to our kids. I love them and I know you do too. Here's what I'm thinking....our kids have paid a high price for watching us fight. Before, during, and after the divorce. I hope we can both put our kids best interests above our own. What are your thoughts?"

This is the response I got from her the following day.....

"I think that's possible if you'll stop telling them how I'm the one who destroyed the family and cheated and crap and if your family will stay out of it and stop telling them crap about me."
"You even told them I cheated with Steve. Give me a freakin break. I'm so sick and tired of you telling them those lies."

I have not responded.

My feeling regarding the kids.....I'm not concerned, at all, with focusing on the past. I did what i did, and she did what she did. My concern for our kids now is.....from this moment forward.....to focus on the present and future in order to help them be well adjusted and successful. I want to DO something about the problems the kids are having. Solution building is the goal.