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Why did it happen? our situations? Why do I feel so much? I am so hurt by all of words spoken to me. But maybe I do deserve it. I bought up the OW too much, I focused on him, I dragged myself down and I am furious at myself. so that is why. He has gone tospend the night 5 hours away with his siser for her birthday - something we were suppose to do together. I just want it to be over.


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Keep talkign to us.


Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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Did you take some meds?


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Cadet,
She has taken about 15+ pills.


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yes i did. i only have these boards right now. nothng or no one else. I wrestlting ith myself on what or how much more to take. I tried to be strong but I am not. evryone expects me to be"supperwoman" like. I am no and sometimes I hurt. Maybe I was cruel and mean and hard to live with and talk to, but I was loyal and did what I could. I am and have always been responsible. But I know what I am doing now is not responsible. Thank you so much for having listened.


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Destiny,

And we'll keep listening. Keep talking to us.

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I do not believe that everyone thought you should be a super woman. I believe you thought and expected that of yourself. Your expectations have been high for yourself and I'm going to tell you the same thing that I told IrishBlessings, lower the expectations for yourself. Look at what you have on your plate and determine what absolutely has to be done that day and do it. The rest of the stuff is fluff and can be done whenever.

You lower your expectations for a bit w/your h and when he starts warming back up, the expectation level goes back up. It's a normal feeling because you've not learn the detachment yet.

As for your h going away this weekend...what happened there? Who decided that you weren't going? Because he went, are you thinking of punishing him by offing yourself? Just because he does something you don't like, doesn't necessarily mean you have to go out there and do something to get back at him. Take the high road and do things differently.

Destiny, where are you located in Virginia? Are you living on base? Is there someone I can call for you?


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She is in Springfield Va.

I just tried to call her but her cell is going to voicemail


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Cadet,
Can you send me an email with any information that you may have on her? I'll do some digging at my end to see if I can locate her home number.


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I've also let some folks know who have connected with her in the past.

Is it possible that a moderator could help?

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