feeling like giving up.....former DBing against OW

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He just signed up for JV Football and we are really excited about that...conditioning doesnt start for awhile though, but it will be a great distraction for him this summer...from how its looking I dont think his D is going to step up, I have a feeling he is going to disapear all together once this stuff comes out sunday...he may act like its no big deal to him, but he knows this is going to change everything and there is no way he will be able to face it...he hasnt dealt with anything, I cant expect him to all the sudden step up and deal with this.

Yes, i have talked to him face to face and he says all the right things...and then never follows through...its a waste of time.
I have to say that its true that there is always some good that comes out of the bad stuff...my S28 has really stepped up to the plate and been there for my S14...now this is not common behavior for him, he has his own issues from his D not being there for him and has a history of being pretty flakey and all around irresponsible. n his own, decided to step up and do what ever he could for his brother and has been there for him. He came up last night and talked to him and it really helped..they go back in his room and talk and he even told S14 that if he started getting it together and staying out of trouble and not "hassling" me, he would give him an allowance for doing his chores...Im so proud of him and have actually seen it benefiting him as well..his self confidence has had a major improvment since hes started being there for his brother. Im so proud of him...Hes comeing back tonight to take S14 to the movies while I go out with some friends...we both need a night off from this.
My S14s C had recommended that he make a list of the questions he wanted to ask his D on Sunday...so he started that last night and then left it on the counter in the kitchen...the first and second were no surprise since he had already asked me..Do you have a gf? and Have you cheated on mom? the third broke my heart...Are you ever comeing back? .....