Irish, You can do this! Take a look at what you think you need to accomplish today and see what is really, really important and do those items. I use to be the type of person that I had to get everything done in one day. After the xh left, I had to "relearn" what my expectations would be for myself. Guess what, everything that I had identified to be accomplished in one day really wasn't all that important. I learned how to select those tasks that had to be really done that day and did them. The other tasks...well, tomorrow is another day.
We felt that we had to be super women/men in our marriages because that's what we thought they expected of us, as well as the world around us. But, after a crisis such as we we have experienced, it gives us the time to re-evaluate our lives as well and this is the time to "weed" out all of the "must dos" that should be labeled "dos at a later date/time".
Give yourself the gift of "me" time once in a while. You will discover that the "me" time gives you an added boost to tackle those difficult tasks that you know you need to absolutely do.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
