Gineen has a point here. But I know you are walking on thin ground. I don't even know how to advise you. I think you need a mediator. I think you need to go back to your lawyer for advice and input. This situation is not healthy for anyone. But you can't demand he live with you. The courts will decide that he is old enough to make that decision.
But, after thinking about your situation yesterday - I think you may need more advice than any of us amateurs can give you.
