Thanks for the information. I appreciate it. Do you feel that her close proximity for convenience sake is helping or hurting your sitch? I know my husband is struggling. He is living in a friends basement and his friend has a wife and 4 kids. I know he is uncomfortable there, but he does not want to come back home, even for convenience.
It's a bit hard to say if it's helping or hurting, to be honest. I've been dealing with other issues, so my DB efforts have been a bit ham-strung.
My MIL lives about 45 minutes out of town. Since we were splitting custody of S, W had days where she not only had to make the long drive to work, but she also had to drive a bit further to get S to daycare. I only had him on my days off, so this wasn't an issue for me. She was spending most of her time and money just trying to get back and forth, as well as periodically getting into fights with MIL.
That said, if your H is really uncomfortable, that could have the effect of making him re-assess his decision to get out of your home, especially if he's not able to get well rested or has some other reoccurring stress that wasn't present before.
As has been echoed already, take the pressure off of him. Back off a bit, but still be available to him if he reaches out. Work on getting through each day, one at a time, and wait to see what happens. Keep going to church, find someone to talk to for the sake of having a sympathetic ear, if nothing else, but try to get it off your chest in a way that you're able to stop dwelling on it. If D hasn't been filed yet, time is still on your side.
Me: 31 W: 28 M: almost 6 T: 10.5 S2 Bomb#1: 05/11 Bomb#2: 11/11 S'd: 11/28/11 Moved back in: 12/28/11 MC: 06/28/12
