Appreciate the thoughts labug. W asked me again where i was coming from so I modified email and sent it.
So your wife made you squirm huh?
Originally Posted By: sayitaintso
Hey- I wanted to respond to you but as I told you I'd much prefer to talk face to face as opposed to email if you are ok with that. How about lunch next week?
If you already told her once.. stick to your guns. Don't say you want to talk about in person and then do this....
Originally Posted By: sayitaintso
I appreciate your honesty as well for today and last night.
As you know, it was a real shitty work week and then having you tell me you hooked up with a dude at a bar, are open to dating, and are probably adopting (nephew), I would like to be able to process a little more and discuss and give you some clear un-emotional responses/info, make sense?
I believe that your intentions are to give our kids as much love and attention as you are able. I feel they are in a place where they need that from us more now than ever before. I love (our nephew) and try to express that to him when I see him. I do however have concerns and I hope you can understand that.
You have made it very clear in many areas that you are going to do what you like and don't need to ask permission from anyone to do so. That is fine but all of our choices do come with consequences. For ourselves, each other, and our kids.
I accept the fact that you are going to do what you choose. Whatever you decide to do I will continue to try to make the best possible decisions to do what's in the best interest of our kids and myself and I believe you will do the same.
Where all this leads I have know clue. I do my best to live in the moment, let things go, and be the best person that I am currently capable of being. At times it's a struggle. I know that I love and care about all of you, including (our nephew), and I want everyone to be as happy as possible.
As we've gone down this path I have done my best to balance letting you do your thing and also be there for you. Please know that I am here and am open to talk to you whenever about whatever. Xx
Originally Posted By: sayitaintso
P.S. I'll buy
Were you flirting there? I remember that you struggle with pursuing right?
Labug had alot of good points in her post to you. You ask for feedback yet you took very little of it.
Don't mean to hit you so hard with a 2x4.. but in all honesty.
What happened to the acting "as if" or cheery and content? What happened to not pursuing or scheduling dates? What happened to not saying anything about your changes? What happened to not showing w consequences of her actions?
What happened to DBing 101?
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
