I don't think that another woman is involved, only because I know how he keeps himself up normally. He has gone from being an impeccable dresser/groomer to showering once or twice a week (if that) and wearing the same clothes over and over. He acted like he just didn't care about himself anymore.
He told me many years ago that he just knew he was a walking clinically depressed person.
That was the huge flashing red light I missed when my marriage was starting to go downhill, and I didn't even notice it.
He stopped dressing nicely, even for work. Stopped caring about his appearance. Showering dropped from every day to maybe 2 to 3 times a week. I saw these things, but I didn't really think it was of anything important.
I later find out in counseling that he was entering a period of depression in our M, feeling hopeless and checked out.
A few months later, when he got back into the groove of things, keeping up his appearance and putting more effort into his hair and clothes..... this was about the time he had entered his EA with a co worker.
