VALENTINE'S DAY DO'S AND DON'TS

[nhmom]

I can't fully ignore it. It really is such a Hallmark holiday that they are drilling it into small children at daycare. Oh well. I'll be writing little valentines that S4 will give to everyone in his class (boys and girls).

I am thinking of getting something little for S4. Though right now I know all he really needs is to see and feel my love.

As for me, I'm going to ignore that part of V-day. Eating ice cream out of the carton sounds good to me I don't expect H do do or say anything, and neither will I. Maybe light some candles and take a nice bath..I haven't done that in years! How about eating ice cream while taking a bath?

[mimivac]

How about eating ice cream while taking a bath?

Now we're talking, nh! Do something nice for yourself.

Mimi

[stillhopin]

We have always helped the kids do something for each of us, and I usually do something for her myself, a nice card or something. My plan this year is to forego the thing i give her but still help the kids do theirs. I saw neat trick with pictures of the kids holding something, then have them make something to actually hold like a flower or something, or even put a real tootsie pop into the photo. They turn out pretty cute.

SH

[keep_going]

I always had warm cookies and milk delivered to my H's work for V day...
Last year I debated, but since he complained that I never did anything nice for him, I decided to go ahead and do it as part of my 180s.

He brought me and each of our girls a bouquet of flowers.
(I later found out that he bought them on the way here because his sister called him and made him feel guilty.)

I also later found out about OW and how he had sent her flowers for V day as well...

So this year, I just bought a "happy VD card, daddy" that the girls can give him. I will also give my daughters a special treat and celebrate with them going out for ice cream or whatever they want.

Nothing from me to H.

[mimivac]

I always had warm cookies and milk delivered to my H's work for V day...

I know this year is unfortunately different, but I just have to say that this is so sweet. I would be so touched if my H did something like that for me.

Mimi

[sandi2]

I'm thinking of just getting her a nice gift bag. A gift. A card. But give it to her from the kids.

Yeah, she'll never figure out that you were the one who really picked it out.

[2chiquitos]

I asked him to watch the kids from 7-9pm. I called my single girlfriends and asked them out. If they can't then I'll FIND something to do. At 4:30pm that day he scheduled for us to do our taxes together...

I never used to get him anything. He got me tix to see Andrea Bocelli for Xmas. What do you think? Should I get him something?

[kolja]

Say, after reading this thread, I MAY just take myself to dinner - nothing too big, I'm up at 4 the next morning :P

[Ctflor]

Maybe light some candles and take a nice bath..I haven't done that in years! How about eating ice cream while taking a bath?

Last summer when h and I were in the thick of things, I took up a personal ritual of mine that used to be almost every part of my evening before bed time before I met h and for awhile after. Which is, lighting candles and taking a nice long bath. Sometimes I'd play some music, other times just be silent. Then it got out of hand when I started shopping for special bath oils, salts and special stuff for me lol It's hard to stop that habit.

Not only is the bath de-stressing, it's a special thing I do for myself and I've kept it up nearly each evening. I like the feeling of being good to myself. The bath is so healing too.

Get yourself something special and be kind to yourself

[~¤DG¤~]

I remember last year I went all out for H, which was something that I almost never did, and he gave me nothing. It was the first time in all of our time together that he didn't do anything. It was an indication that something was really, really wrong in our M.

Vday is my oldest S's bday, so I'll focus on that instead.