MLC or Passive Aggressive or Narcissism

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Kimmerz you are exactly right. The more I examine the behavioral patterns and the rel. btwn me and XH, the more I see that I was making accomodations for and looking the other way with his P-A tendencies for a majority of the marriage. The MLC just made it come to a level where I stopped taking it, "enough is enough." I think what happened prior to the MLC was that there would be some P-A major thing, then things would smooth over for a long time, and I'd forget all about it. There would be so many happy times I'd just forget it. But when the MLC began, the P-A stuff was cyclical in this every 3rd day sort of manic-depressive state, and that's when it got to be too much.

You will all think I'm nuts for saying this but maybe I need to be THANKFUL that XH went into the MLC, or else I'd be with a P-A person the rest of my life. Bottom line? My father is P-A. My mom has been with him over 40 years and will stand by him till death and has already said she will never remarry. My one sister is also married to a P-A man and since she has kids, she has said she will not break up their family. Both my mom and sister have "difficult" marriages, admittedly, but they feel stuck.

I'm free. But had he not cheated on me, I'd have stuck by him to my own detriment. Someone up there must be looking out for me ;-)