"Appointment arranged and I say I still need the information for the Divorce Papers. W: 'Well if that's the way you still want to go fine but shouldn't we wait until after we have seen the (new) counselor you don't know what might come out of it.' Is this PA chain-jerking or MLC cake-eating/clinging to the edge?"
I think it's both!Talk about a mixed message!
To me it sounds like she's saying, "Im wondering if counseling could help us and maybe the papers shouldn't be filed until we go, even though it was my idea to go in regards to help tell our son about the divorce. Im not sure and can't make a choice. I don't want to entirely let you go. But I can't tell you that. So Im going to have you do the emotional work for the both of us. If Im happy with the results I may or may not be upfront about it. If not then I have my escape plan, which is to act like Im not doing what Im actually doing,deny it and therefore make you look and feel crazy'.
Been there done that with xh. When I called him on it he turned it right around and said the same thing! Had no intention of giving me false hope and he was acting the way he thought friends were supposed to act, friendly and that's all he was doing. But if I had to think he was doing that sort of thing to try and get through this divorce then fine!
My xh too would be evasive about the divorce too. He filed yet wouldn't talk to me about anything. Then when things got real and I hired an attorney....oh boy howdy! Spewing and not speaking for 3 months.
Im really beginning to think that the catalyst for the departure is MLc, but the PA has always been there. MLC is making PA FULL THROTTLE now!
